Going From Not Now to Not Yet to Now Achieved
Jerry 'D-Rhino' Clark and I |
Artemis Limpert |
Mr. Motivator Les Brown and I |
Protect Your Value(ables)
The values that are valuable
vary from person to person and must be protected. Values as a verb is defined as; “consider (someone
or something) to be important or beneficial; have a high opinion of.” And
valuable is defined as; “a thing that is of great worth, especially a small
item of personal property.” In the King James version of the Bible, in Luke
17:20-21 it states: “20 And when he was demanded of the Pharisees, when the
kingdom of God should come, he answered them and said, The kingdom of God
cometh not with observation: 21 Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there!
for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.”
There are three areas that I
value in life and they are interdependent when properly understood. The first
of these values is self-worth. After watching the video presentation by Robert
Waldinger titled “What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study onhappiness” I realized that while the research was sound, I do not believe those doing
the study looked deep enough into why some of the participants where “happier”
than others. True happiness comes from within and while “good relationships
keep us happier” as suggested by Mr. Waldinger, those relationships and their
relative goodness is ultimately a personal choice. I have always valued my own
internal happiness and I realized very early in life that anytime I did not
feel happy or fulfilled, it was not my external world that needed changing it
was my internal thoughts. My oldest son when he was a teenager decided to do
some not so good things with his life. And while his choices had an effect on
me as his father due to my love for him, I quickly chose to love myself and own
my internal feelings instead of being influenced by the actions of my son.
Doing this immediately changed my feelings within and while I did love my son,
I chose to love me more, enabling me to love him in spite of his teenager antics. Which
leads to my second value and that of family. My spiritual father Minister Louis
Farrakhan once said “...nothing is more important and sacred than family...” When as an individual you decide to experience
happiness within by the choices you make that feeling of self-joy extends to
those around you. Based on Mr. Waldinger’s video presentation and the studies
done it can be extrapolated that those test subjects that were the happiest
chose to be that way and in spite of the normal challenges of life, the
external world did not alter their internal feelings of happiness. I do agree
with the study in that “good relationships keep us happier and healthier,
period!” In my life I found that when I had mutually beneficial relationships
with others, the quality of my internal happiness was enhanced. Knowing that
there are people directly connected to me that I can rely on and assist
provides what I call a “Relationship Energy Loop” like any good electrical
circuit, the energy flows in a circle giving light, life and power to all
connected. The final area I value is community. “Self-Improvement is the Basis
of Community Development” as the guided study system created by Minister Louis
Farrakhan states. Communities are made of individuals, individuals connected in
homes make up families, and families clustered in close geographic areas
comprise communities. Community is important toward nurturing strong families
and individuals as it provides the broader support system that keeps the
smaller units intact. Having friends that I started with in Preschool, knowing
their families and each parent knowing the parent(s) of those I called my
friends gave me a strong feeling of belonging. Never feeling like I was alone
no matter where I was in my neighborhood because knowing that I could knock on
a door of my neighbor and get not only guidance as a child but also get food as
well was a definite community bonus. To be invited in to have lunch or dinner
with a family that was not of my immediate family shored up the feelings of belonging.
So being happy within self allows you to work effortlessly within your family
unit and gives you a greater chance at being invited over for lunch within your
community, and who couldn’t see the value in that?
Labels: Community , Family , Self-Improvement , Values
I-Media-tly Get Social or Not
Social media is here and
who cares if you do not like it! Over the last 30-years, the digital landscape
in the world has jumped rapidly. Leaving many behind during the days of DOS and
PASCAL program languages, to dropping others off at the advent of the color
screen and QWERTY keyboard.
Matthew Lieberman |
Angel On The Shoulder And The Devil In The Details
Popeye Opening Can of Spinach |
Homer Simpson in Conflict |
Labels: Angel , Children , Devil , Inspiration , Popeye , Praise , Self-Esteem
Am I Right or is it my Writing? The Four Ways to Finding my Writing Powers.
One of the first things I realized after completing the Jung Topology Test and receiving the results ISTJ (Introvert – Sensing – Thinking – Judging), I realized that the results were more accurate than not, and by looking more closely at each designation, it has helped me find my writing power. The first way I found my writing power was in the identifying letter ‘I’ for ‘Introvert.’ In the work “Your Personality Type and Writing” for “Introversion and Writing,” I agree that I “need time and solitude for concentration…” Whether at home or school I have found locations and methods to “block out” the distractions so that I can focus on what I am writing. One of the strengths mentioned in the section speaks to my “needing distance from” my “audience to gain a perspective for whom” I “am writing.” I have always liked the “helicopter view” of things. My only disagreement with this first designation is that I am an extrovert in personality but as I normally tell those that meet me, I am an introverted – extrovert in life and in writing. This leads us to the second letter designation ‘S’ or ‘Sensing.’ I have always felt that there is power in the details. When I write I recognize that the more data or information I am presented with, the more clearly I feel that I can be in the communication I am being asked to present. I use the statement: “facts in – facts out.” While I disagree with the suggestion that due to this designation, I “have difficulty deciding what to include in the paper.” I have to agree that I sometimes “fail to notice content weaknesses” due to the speed in which I would put the writing to paper. The third designation letter ‘T’ or ‘Thinking’ is spot on. I thrive in being well organized and when I have a predetermined action plan for writing I definitely agree that “if the structure dictates the inclusion of material, it is included. If not, it is excluded.” I will often cross out entire sentences and not include them in my final submission when I feel they do not fit the original requested structure. Being very logical and analytical in my methodology such as having all my papers in a single stack, writing devices in one place and books to be used all stacked neatly, this process helps me to stay organized and write in an organized manner. The last and final “temperament test” designation is the letter ‘J’ or ‘Judging.’ This area seems to be my blessing and my curse. Although brevity in speaking can help to get a point across quickly so that life can continue on, when it comes to writing it can be a detriment to the reader. Here is an example, the “content weakness” and “being well organized” as mentioned above are both results of the ‘Judging’ designation. It is true that when I write a paper I begin writing in my head long before I grab a pencil and paper and then proceed to write down my thoughts (judgments) about the subject matter as if it was an well planned out process that was taken to produce it. This process can leave the reader without some very important information. However not all is lost as it is suggested that this ‘Judging’ also carries the benefit of being able to “write quickly” and “meet deadlines.” When writing a paper with a writing “temperament” such as this, while I might feel that I am “right” in what I am writing, I know that I can gain much more writing power by enhancing the strengths of each temperament trait and work to eliminate the weaknesses and this can only be done through my being adaptable as it relates those four areas.
God, Goals and Extra Grit: How I turned tragedy into the triumph by finding EXTRA Grit.
Lastly, as we hiked up a Superstition Mountain's "Treasure Loop #56" the week before Tonja passed, she said to me, “Rodney, I want you to do more; I want you to go higher and help more people.” After I made my arguments as to why I didn’t feel I had it in me to do any more than I was already doing, One week later, God and Tonja would assist me in their own special way, by helping me find the grit I didn’t know I had. I must say, Thank You God for blessing me with Tonja.
Labels: Amanda Murphy , Angela Lee Duckworth , Bakersfield , Grit , love , marriage , Phoenix , Pow-Wow , San Francisco , Superstition Mountain , TedTalk , Tonja